Friends or Family

We've all heard it, you can't choose your family. But what if that is just a misnomer?"
Your family isn't necessarily the ones that sired you, i mean, i have chosen my family. My family are my friends. The ones that make me feel apart of something grander than just a group of malfunctioning teens. I'm at my grandmas, a woman i love more than anything, and i feel as if i'm missing out on all my family. When i used to live here, i was so welcomed at this school, that the people weren't only my friends, they were my extended family. And thats just how its always been. But i haven't seen this family since October...i haven't been able to really talk to them since November. My family is who i have chosen, and i can't even talk to them.
People always say your parents are the ones you should love the most, along with siblings. But in my case...my friends come first (save gma). My father was never there for me, and he says that that is my fault. My mother is now under the influence of a man who beat me. What am i supposed to do? love them no matter what. I know that in the bible that is what you are told to do love your enemy...i can see where it comes from. So i respect them, not exactly show them love but i make sure that they are the ones i respect the most. But my extended family, the ones that i have chosen to want in my life for better or for worse get the majority of my love
Once again, i'm being all serious.